Remember the song,
Nobody likes me, everybody hates me, guess I'll go eat worms...?
That's how I feel today. There has just been way too much going on (thus the reason for not blogging lately).
In the past 24 hours I have thrown my
temper tantrum and said enough is enough.
I cannot not prep a house to sell, look at lots, look at houses, evaluate plans, price wood, fixtures, etc. work on an annulment, plan a wedding, parent 1+2 children, including an almost 5 year old in 2 sports, maintain a house for sale, clean out the garage and basement, have a garage sale, work full time, be a decent fiance, cook, deal with a depressed semi-unemployed man, do laundry for 3+2 and still maintain my sanity. Many things HAVE TO GO!!
- Yesterday I rationally documented all of the reasons and told Chris I was pulling the plug on the sell/buy/build a new house. We currently have a lopsided budget and too much cumulative debt to take on a bigger mortgage. We are just going to have to stay put for the next 2-3 years or until that big ugly number is AT LEAST divided by 2. This morning I yanked the For Sale sign out of the yard.
- Last night I had a serious discussion with the little man about sportsmanship and that if I EVER saw him kick an opponent's shoe (or any part for that matter) again, he was not playing sports for a year. Even if he does think he is an All Star 3rd baseman.
- My boss and I had a much more contentious meeting over my annual review than she anticipated. She told me that I needed to be more patient and nicer to my colleagues, and I told her I was tired of the Sorority House atmosphere in our office and that I thought her judgement of performance was clouded by her friendship with some of my colleagues. Oh, and that her husband screaming at me at the top of his lungs that "the F#$%^$#ng phones are still NOT fixed" when they WERE working fine when the phone company (whose President calls our office EVERY week because they are our/his client) left, was never acceptable in the workplace.
- THEN Jackson's father called asking about day care rates once Jackson starts kindergarten. It opened the door for me to bust him out that I know his salary has more than doubled (he works for state government - it is public information) since we signed the child support agreement that he is still underpaying, and that I know that he makes the same as me so essentially he needs to get with the program. I did not exactly put it that way, but instead, in the nicer more patient Suzanne mode, developed a nice excel grid calculating down from his gross, then net, then less insurance, then 20%. AND then outlined day care and tuition costs, and offered that he could pick which thing he wanted to pay. His choice. And acknowledging the less costly one is still $200 more than his is paying now (and not "about" the same like he told me 20% of his salary would be), AND $150 less than he SHOULD be at 20%. Never mind that I can take 1/2 of the tuition + child care number and add it to the 20% and that is what a judge would say he should pay. I am NOT greedy. I have been more than generous, but it is more than time for him to buck up.
The silver lining is that all of the bad conversations are all about out. I have typed and the elephant sized weight has been
lessoning from my chest. Perhaps I should give
my sister in law a call.....:-)
"Short fat juicy ones. Long slim slimy ones...
itsy bitsy fuzzy little
wooorrrrms."